Prayer as Personal Encounter
By Brother Vladimir
Metropolitan
Anthony Bloom, of blessed memory, once instructed his audience on a BBC
television series to set aside regular periods of silence for sincerely praying
this (seemingly) simple prayer: “Help me,
O God, to put off all pretenses and to find my true self.”
Since my
first encounter with this prayer, I’ve often returned to it as a way of
acquiring what the Zen tradition calls “beginner’s mind.” For in its pithy
phrasing is contained the inner dynamic of prayer as entry into a deeper, more
profound knowledge of self. “Enter eagerly into the treasure house that is within you,
and so you will see the things that are in heaven; for there is but one single
entry to them both,” St. Isaac the Syrian informs us.
When
approaching this short prayer, one should tread carefully: its words, when
deeply felt and experienced, are extremely potent. There is no rule book as to
how such a prayer, pronounced with faith, will grow and evolve for any given
person. So much depends, among other factors, on the level of authenticity with
which its words are uttered and how deeply they descend into the heart—as well
on a person’s consistency and patience in persevering with it even when it
seems that “nothing is happening,” at least not on the surface.
Recovering the “Image”
Our
Christian tradition teaches that all human beings are born with a precious
inheritance: we are, all of us, made in the image of God. This is that pearl of
great price, the “Truth at the heart of my being” and the “wisdom deep within”
(Psalm 51(50):6, New Skete Translation). However, it is also a fact of life
that this pearl gets covered over by many layers of grime and dirt. The woman
who has lost the silver coin (Luke 15:8-10) - the coin that symbolizes the deep
self as made in the image of God - has to light a lamp, sweep the house, and
search carefully until she finds it. And what is that luminescent lamp that
helps her to re-discover it if not interior prayer repeated within the heart’s deepest
chambers?
Metropolitan
Anthony offers another evocative image to describe the action of prayer.
Imagine, he says, a magnificent and very ancient wall fresco. Over the
centuries this fresco has been painted over by individuals who, in not
perceiving the stunning beauty of the original painting, have tastelessly
covered it over with supposed improvements and kitschy flourishes. The
deceptively simple prayer that he offers, when it begins to penetrate deep
inside us, is like a slowly acting solution that begins to eat away at those
thick layers of exterior dross, starting very gradually to offer glimpses of
the original wall fresco that has always remained intact underneath the
surface.
St.
Theophan the Recluse, an Orthodox saint of the 19th century who had a masterful
grasp of human psychology, once succinctly wrote that the essence of prayer is
to “stand before God with the mind in the heart.” An incredible amount of
wisdom can be unpacked from that statement (which there is no space to go into
now). For present purposes, it is enough to say that often the biggest
challenge in prayer is to figure out which
self will stand before God in the first place.
To begin
to discover the “innermost self” (which is what the Christian tradition refers
to as the heart or nous), hiding
somewhere in between all of the public personas and “surface selves” is
precisely the point of Metropolitan Anthony’s prayer. He said: “We think that
we are standing before God in all truth, whereas we are putting forward someone
who is not our real self, who is an actor, a sham, a stage personality. Every
one of us is a variety of persons at the same time…we are different according
to circumstances and surroundings: the various people that meet us know us as
different persons.”
Like the
Gerasene demoniac described in the Gospels, we too can say that our “name is
Legion; for we are many” (Mark 5:9). To use the language of modern psychology,
we consist of multiple subpersonalities and play many roles, some of which are
quite discordant and most of which are activated without our conscious
knowledge. Even a mild experience of hunger can alter how we think, feel, and
act. This is one meaning of Jesus bemoaning a “perverse generation” (Matthew
17:17). Being “perverse” really refers to having a heart that goes off in many
different directions, constantly pulled this way and that. As we are, we think
one thing, feel another, say a third, and do something else entirely. It is no
wonder that our lives can feel so chaotic when the head, heart, and gut have
not been integrated.
Pretenses
need not be exaggerated versions of phoniness; they extend very far down and
can be very subtle, difficult to detect in ourselves. Often we require others
to point out our blind spots. If “pretense” sounds too harsh, we can think of
distorting lenses that bias what we see when we look inside and outside. This
allows a person to deny, edit, and distort reality as it is, so as to feel more
comfortable. We sometimes drink, take drugs, engage in “retail therapy,” over-intellectualize,
or otherwise do things (like judge others and take pleasure in their
misfortune) to escape reality and feel better about ourselves.
According
to one line of thinking, the personality is a multilayered network of such
distorting lenses, with different degrees of filtering capacity. To quote
Meister Eckhart: “A human being has so many
skins inside, covering the depths of the heart. We know so many things, but we
don't know ourselves! Why, thirty or forty skins or hides, as thick and hard as
an ox's or bear's, cover the soul. Go into your own ground and learn to know
yourself there.”
Most of
those skins that Meister Eckhart mentions were initially formed because they
had a useful function to perform—or they may even continue to perform useful
functions—but they can be so many obscuring veils when we desire to enter into
a deeper personal relationship with God.
God, to
use a certain phrasing, is reality as it is, so to deny reality is to deny God.
To begin to shed those layers built up throughout our lives is to let go of our
elaborate defense mechanisms. When our defenses relax even a little, then the
heart becomes more sensitive, and we catch glimpses of another consciousness
and awareness, where we experience ourselves not as lonely and isolated
individuals struggling to escape from persistent sources of dissatisfaction but
as immersed in an ongoing communion with God’s uncreated energies of love.
“Behold, I stand at the door and knock” (Revelation 3:20): our choice is to
either open the door and allow ourselves to be found or to keep it closed.
So the
first step in praying Metropolitan Anthony’s “simple” prayer is a great “coming
home to one self,” an in-gathering and concentration of all our vital forces
from their outward dispersal, so that they can begin to cohere or collect
themselves into some kind of wholeness. We are, in fact, “re-membering”
ourselves on an inner level. When recollection grows stronger we can sense our
innermost self being irradiated by an entirely other source of light and
warmth.
There is
a raw and tender vulnerability in allowing our innermost self to be seen by the
“eye” of God. “O Lord, examine me and know me yourself, You know when I sit
still and when I move about; you read my mind even from afar” (Psalm
139(138):1-2, New Skete Translation). “O Lord, you know my every desire; my
sighs are no secret to you” (Psalm 38(37):9, New Skete Translation). A legion
of desires (often contradictory) lurks in the murky depths of our subconscious
mind. Some of them are less salutary and wholesome than others. Being seen at
that level requires uncompromising self-honesty; it requires a willingness to
bare our wounds, not as an exercise in masochism but in order to invite God’s
loving glance to penetrate into these secret recesses. An increase of light
(consciousness) can begin a very gradual process of healing and fostering a
growth of our life in Christ.
As the
Romanian schema-nun Mother Siluana put it in her wonderful book God, Where is the Wound? when we pray
during the Divine Liturgy to commend all our life to Christ we are consenting
to invite Christ down into the furthest depths of our subconscious mind, to
allow ourselves to open and be transformed by grace. We are not just presenting
our conscious self-evaluation, which is ever-occupied with conducting its own
public relations campaign to make itself appear self-justified and in the right.
Christ came to save us in our brokenness, not our imagined saintliness. As
Metropolitan Anthony said on another occasion, and here I am paraphrasing from
my memory: “God can save the sinner that you are, but not the saint you pretend
to be.”
The truth
inside of our being is that we are both fragmented and whole, both broken and
healed, both sinner and saint. Our
task is to realize this consciously and to be able to live from it, even in
times when the storms of life bear down on us. Peter was able to walk on the
stormy waters until he took his eyes off Christ and began to sink into those
frigid, turbulent waters. The ability to simultaneously hold and honor the
ultimate paradox (or mystery) of a reconciliation of opposites is the beginning
of an authentic feeling of sacredness. In the Orthodox tradition, mention is
made of a “joyous sorrow” that infuses a repentant heart at prayer. This joyous
sorrow is what we feel in those moments when we can allow ourselves to be
absolutely shattered by the tragic beauty of life: the beauty of God’s image
that is hidden in our depths and a vivid realization of how far off the mark
we’ve come in actually incarnating that beauty in our life, along with the hope
of growing more fully into this call throughout a lifetime. The countenance of
many of the saints depicted in icons bears witness to this joyous sorrow.
A Few Closing Reflections
Here is
just one more thing to mention, based on my experience with Metropolitan
Anthony’s prayer. And that has to do with answering the question “How do I know
if it’s working?” When prayer is sincerely felt, felt by the whole body, and
when, as St. Theophan and other Holy Fathers and Mothers say, the prayer
descends into the heart, then it will inevitably set in motion tremors that reverberate
throughout one’s life, inner and outer. It often seems that to sense these
vibrations and tremors requires that we quiet the whirling “monkey mind” that
is constantly jumping around from thought to thought or finding itself
engrossed in one external happening after another. As Metropolitan Anthony put it: “Too often we are immersed in what is happening
around us, all the unnecessaries we gather from the wireless, television,
newspapers…” In our day, this digital distraction is now “on steroids.”
But if we
sharpen our intuitive sense, become receptive to the inner world, and open
ourselves to receive, then something may begin to reach us. The tremors and
vibrations set in motion by prayers like this often manifest themselves in
insights, realizations that can arrive as brief glimpses that ultimately
facilitate lasting change (or what our tradition calls metanoia—a positive transformation of one’s way of existing) by
giving us a different perspective, a “big picture.” These illuminations can
come at the most unexpected times, so one has to be vigilant enough to notice
their flashes. Christ extorts us to watch and pray.
Speaking
personally, these insights often reveal ways in which I’ve been trying
desperately, usually unconsciously, to cling to some recurring attitude or
pattern of behaving, thinking, or feeling that, even if it was once useful, is
now causing more harm than good to self and others. A deeply intuited insight
that cuts to the core then gives permission to, at least temporarily, shed one
more layer of pretense or inauthenticity. Instantly there comes a sense of
release, relief, joy; a feeling of lightness (of light!) grows stronger, and
the darkness retreats a little more. Some new burst of life energy becomes
available again, instead of remaining stagnant. Such insights are very special.
They are a kind of food for nourishing the growth of our spiritual being. Maybe
they are a way of very gradually building that interior spiritual, “glorified
body” that St. Paul speaks of. Just as our physical, carnal bodies require food
for sustenance, another type of food is required to nurture an inner growth, of
some crystallized deposit that grows as our spiritual being matures. Other
sources of such nourishment come from regular participation in liturgical
worship, lectio divina, and maybe most strongly through a
conscious participation in the Holy Mysteries (Sacraments) of the Church.
Growth of spiritual being has no end.
God, in Christ (the Logos, Word, Truth, Wisdom, and
Grace), seeks ceaselessly to be allowed to enter into our life, based on our
freely given responses to the promptings of the Holy Spirit. However strongly
we may thirst and desire to discover God, we can be sure that God has an
infinitely stronger desire to seek out you and me. It is us, not God, who need
to free up the time and attention to be present for this intimate and sacred
rendezvous. It was Christ’s disciples who kept falling into slumber at Gethsemane
(Matthew 26:33-43).
The Parable of the Prodigal Son teaches us that God the
Father never stops looking for us and waiting for us to take small steps toward
the Kingdom of Heaven. When we begin to follow the Spirit’s gentle stirrings,
there is no telling where they might eventually lead us in the circumstances of
our own life journey—but these stirrings of the breeze are also the
exhilaration of becoming a living human person in a teeming, holy, living, and
luminous cosmos that strives to become aware of itself through us.
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